I do not believe
that any sort of abuse is excusable by any parent, for any reason. Strict
discipline does not have to involve the infliction of physical or emotional
pain on a child by a parent. This is an aggressive form of conflict
communication, and it is not a valid or beneficial style for either party
involved. Pushing a child to strive for achievement can be done in non-abusive
ways, such as having a conversation that addresses the issues and desired goals
of the child and/or parent. Also, to discipline a child, a parent can simply take
away privileges such as T.V., Facebook, hanging out with friends, etc. These are ways to still have authority and to influence a child to follow rules without causing permanent damage to the child's psyche or body. People
overstep their paternal authority to punish their children when they cause the
child extensive emotional, mental, and/or physical pain. Clearly, if you take
away a child’s privileges he/she will be somewhat hurt, but not to the extent
of abuse. These strategies can be effective, mutually beneficial, and much less
harmful for the child.
I too agree that no parent should abuse their child for any reason. Discipline I feel can be calm or strict but like you said it should never inflict physical pain or emotion pain. I like how you said children can strive for achievement as long as it is done correctly. Having a conversation regarding goals is a great way a parent could do such a thing. Taking away privileges is also a great way a parent can still discipline correctly. As long as the parents understand what a privilege is and what a need is. Some parents can believe things such as food is a privilege but that in my mind is abuse. Great post and great ideas!
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with you that emotional and physical abuse to a child is unnecessary. I feel like with all the information in our day and age that it is a well-known fact that most sociopaths were abused as children. I don’t think anyone would want to create an atmosphere that may cause their child to grow up to become a murderer or rapist.
ReplyDeleteI feel that strict discipline should be enforced on child in order to teach them to follow rules and be a good member of society. I agree with you on your second point about taking away privileges. I feel this is a very effective way to punish a child for wrong-doing. You don’t have to yell at them or abuse them physically in order to get your point across. Though I do feel that privileges should never be taken away for an inordinate amount of time or indefinitely altogether. That, I feel, is just another form of abuse. Making your child miserable by taking away everything fun to them is not ideal.
Great job making valid points on how to be a good parent.