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have lost trust in many people over the course of my life with friends, romantic partners, and even family members. One example is of a
very close friend of mine. She and I seemed to be inseparable. Attached at the
hip. She began dating a guy who was abusive both physically and emotionally,
and I tried to express my disliking of him. She then proceeded to tell him what
I was saying, and then he began to fight with me. I decided that she was
brainwashed and too manipulated by him to listen to me, and it was clear that
she would always take his side rather than mine. I stopped communicating with
her, and it wasn’t until recently that we even became friends on Facebook. I
was incredibly hurt by her behavior and how quickly she was willing to sacrifice
our friendship for a horrible boyfriend. The trust is still not restored
because I refuse to allow her back into my life to the same extent as before.
Though I became her friend on Facebook, I have still not responded to her
message, and I have not spoken to her. This situation was unfortunate, but I am
grateful for the lesson it taught me. I no longer surrender my trust to someone
completely unless it is earned and proven.
Hi HaleyA,
ReplyDeleteI thought you had a great post about trust and I have to agree with the last sentence you wrote; “I no longer surrender my trust to someone completely unless it is earned and proven”. That is a great thing to stand by and I agree with that. Earning trust from people can take a while, especially if that person had broken the trust with you before. I’m sorry about you and your friend. I have been in a similar situation as you, except it was my cousin and her boyfriend, unlike you friend and her boyfriend. The same situation pretty much happened, except I never stopped talking to my cousin, but rather started ignoring her boyfriend when he was around and I learned what I could and couldn’t say in front of my cousin. Situations like these can be hard and when trust is lost, it is hard to get back. Great post!