There are not many events in my life that I find difficult to
forgive, but there are a few that have affected me greatly in other
relationships over the years. For example, I mentioned in a previous post about
trust that I had a best friend who deserted me for an awful boyfriend. Though
I have somewhat forgiven her all these years later, I have taken that baggage
into other friendships and have not allowed myself to trust another friend so
deeply and as quickly as I did. I do not think I can rekindle our friendship, as she
has tried to do recently, because there is too much emotional residue that won’t
wash away so easily. It is difficult to forgive someone in this situation
because there was a great deal of emotional investment on my end, which adds to the hurt
of the relational transgression. It felt as though loyalty to one another was more important to
me, and I couldn’t trust that she would take my side if this issue were to come
up again. Forgiveness is honorable, but it isn’t always easy.
Hey there HaleyA
ReplyDeleteI cannot relate to your post more since I myself have also put a great deal of emotional investment into a former friendship I had, in which that person not only used my kindness to her advantage but also took the side of an awful boyfriend. Forgiveness can be done but it is extremely hard to forget how someone else has wronged you especially in this situation where I did nothing but be kind to the girl. I have learned through that experience that no one deserves to be someone's accessory being friends with someone is a two-way street, in which you're there for each other not one just one way one person's life.